Know Your True Values in Life Now – It Is Absolutely Critical

Two Realities

We have two realities in our life; one is what others think about us? And the other is what we actually are? We need to make constant endeavor to connect to our real self - our inner core. This is a place where there is no hidden agenda, darkness, pretention, greed, selfishness, ambiguity and illusion. There is only light, tranquility, truth, peace, relaxation, gratitude and clarity.

 

We are, witnessing the worst mad rat race of our times, running after material possessions and in the process we are knowingly and unknowingly losing out on

1.     Peace of Mind; Because of the perpetual anxiety to achieve our material goals, we are in a constant state of tension, a mental state marked by the absence of lightness and relaxation, causing us to feel irritated even at the slightest provocation. Need any evidence, just watch the traffic on the road and see how people express their growing frustration in the form of road rage culminating in heated exchange and violence in extreme cases.

2.     Health; Such high  stress levels tax our physical bodies beyond the permissible healthy limits ,there by letting abnormality and dysfunction creep into our lives. These can be in the form of one or more of these abnormalities including but not limited to high blood pressure, nervous stroke, insomnia, diabetes, digestive disorders, kidney & liver diseases and in extreme cases this can even result in, sometimes fatal cardiac arrest, leading to an end of the race called life before the finish line.  

3.     Our Innocence; We have become so fast paced that we have hurriedly past left our innocence, where we look at one another as well as ,each and every thing with suspicion and doubt. We have trained our minds to always see an ulterior motive even behind the best intentions. This is correctly so the result of our own doing where we have mastered the craft called deception of almost everybody around us. Since we measure the world with our own yardstick, we always look at others in the light of distrust and disbelief. This has made us sacrifice our openness to confide in others and be a confidante, making us long for true friendship and companionship. Neither we become true friend of others nor are we able to make others are true friends, making us even lonelier, with only heartbreaking silence to hear the echoes of our own cries in the times of trial and tribulations.

4.     Our Family Relationships; We have lost touch with ourselves and in the process we have forgotten what do we really want from our lives. Our behaviors are not in line with our deep rooted values. Not because we want it to be this way but because we are not aware of our values, not because we don't want to know our values but because nobody has ever taught about the correct way to know our true values. Even when we are aware of our values we are not able to align our behavior with these values because we are not trained to teach our selves the right behavior. What we are taught is the spontaneous reaction to the provocations thrown at us by the other people or the behavior of going after our passions, which are characterized by the lust & greed, constantly steering us away and not letting us behave in conformity with our values

5.     Inappropriate Role Models; This malady is further catapulted in the form of getting adopted by the other innocent people , because they have seen only the glimpse of the material possessions and not knowing anything about the dark facts and struggles which are internal to our selves. Thus their falling prey and victim to this trap and the tradition is continued. The solution to this problem may not be near at hand. But a good intention can open new doors of learning causing paradigm shift with the generations and letting them decide for their own good about what do they really want from life and then go after it with full dedication and commitment.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Goal Setting for Achieving Happiness & Fulfillment

The Perpetual Complaint; Every now and then we come across people, who complain about not being able to achieve their goals. And if we are able to achieve our goal then very often it is at a very big cost to us, which we realize only once a lot of water has flown under the bridge.  Sometimes we ourselves have the same complaint. But the people, including us, who have this perpetual complaint, must understand the complete truth behind the mechanism of goal setting and goal achievement.

Two Interrelated Concepts Regarding Goals; while setting our goals we need to understand that a goal is something worthwhile we want to achieve and to achieve a goal we must engage in action that would make us achieve it.  We can see clearly that there are two interrelated concepts , the first concept relates to taking  a decision regarding something worthwhile, called a goal, which we want to achieve and the second concept relates to the action we take for achieving that goal. 

Preempting Great Possibility of Falling Prey to the Wish-List; Another important aspect to be understood here is whether we need to choose any arbitrary goal first and then qualify it to meet the criteria of being something worthwhile we want to achieve or we first deliberate over worthwhile things we want to achieve and then we choose the most appropriate one as our goal. Let's understand that the former style of goal setting needs us to have very strong intuition for us to choose the right goal and there is a big possibility of us taking an incorrect decision by mistaking influence of fad or deep rooted craving for our long suppressed passions & unfulfilled wishes for a goal. Thus, there is a greatpossibility of falling prey to the wish-list, which may contain both desirable & undesirable wishes, and we may end up with an undesirable wish as our goal. Therefore it is strongly recommended that we choose our goal through the latter style.   

 Now having understood the difference between a goal and a wish, before we get started with the process of setting our goal, we need to answer these three questions

1.     Is the goal that I am choosing, a desirable goal?

2.     Can I accurately ascertain the price I need to pay for achieving this goal?

3.     Do I really want to, pay the ascertained price and, achieve this goal?

Keys to Happiness & Fulfillment- Closer Look at these Questions; Is the goal that I am choosing, a desirable goal?

 Please note the characteristics of a desirable goal

·        Its fulfillment would be beneficial to all

·        It would not cause any pain to any one

·        It is in conformity to universal eternal truths

Can I accurately ascertain the price to be paid for its achievement?

The price includes

·        The sustained effort & unflinching sincerity

·        Opportunity cost for achieving it

·        Correct living in conformity with the universal eternal truths

Do I really want to, pay the ascertained price and, achieve this goal?
this analysis relates to

·        The price justification

·        The value attached to the accomplishment of the goal

·    The values , talents , purpose ,mental makeup & personality attributes,which vary with different people

If the answer to all the three questions is yes, then we have chosen a goal, which  would unleash happiness & bliss for everyone, directly or indirectly, involved in its accomplishment.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Don't Wait For The Skies To Fall - Sky May Never Fall But You Can

A New Paradigm

There is a saying that,"Bad habits are easy to form but difficult to break.” Whether this is true or not, depends upon what do we like to choose. We need to rewrite this old adage with a new paradigm, to be read as,"Bad habits are difficult to form but easy to break".  

Factors Leading to this Paradigm Shift

1.     Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come;

Let's look at the factors which make this paradigm shift possible, but before doing this, it is only natural to make a note of the turn of events in the last century. We crawled from agriculture age to information age. It does not mean that technology & information exchange could have not thrived in the times of agriculture age, the same technology that works today could have generated the same results at that time as well, but can anybody tell why all this hi-tech revolution did not happen at the time when agriculture was supposed to be the main activity for any country to progress and register its supremacy. The answer is that there is a right time for everything, yes that is it.

2.     Now it is possible to improve speed of action without compromising on the  overall quality;

In the earlier times, when this adage gained ground, the world used to move at a much slower pace as compared to its speed in the present times. Today we have instant quick fix solutions, a word of caution, what we are not encouraging here is “shortcut at the cost of quality”, on the contrary what we are saying here is that, the times have changed and now it is possible to improve speed of action without compromising on the overall quality. Take different examples such as communication speed between two distant locations improved from an initial, large number of months to an instant communication through telephone and internet connectivity in the present times, travel speed also improved from the pain of travelling for months to moving between two distant destinations in a lesser number of hours, this also applies to the medical advances, astronomy, etc., and the list goes on. In a nut shell we can say that there is no activity in our lives which has not evolved to be a fast paced affair defying all time constraints which were, until some time back considered as insurmountable challenges. Today anything which can be controlled by humans, has become increasingly fast paced with blurring, and in certain cases no, time lines, making our belief as the major determinant of our present and future possibilities. If the agriculture age people had only witnessed such instantaneous actions, then they themselves would have evolved the new paradigm. 

    3.Any scientific invention that is supporting our life styles today is only a          discovery & application of very firmly established universal eternal  truths:

If we agree with this statement than it is easier for us to know that if we also discover, if we have not yet done so, & apply the universal eternal truths to our own behavior than we can get the same revolutionary results. Just to elaborate the point, all the systems such as electricity, laptop, air-travel, etc, are operational & ready just waiting for our command to activate them, because these are installed on the scientific support systems , which in turn are based on the universal eternal truths eg; property of electrons, insulators/ conductors used, and the list goes on. Similarly if we are tuned into the universal eternal truths and our behaviors are geared up to match the agility of the support systems surrounding us, there is no doubt that we will be quick to action, with good habits as well as to avoid the bad habits.

4.     Linking our present behavior to its immediate,short term, medium term and long term consequences;

We can clearly make out how far our behavior is consistent with our values, goals & purpose in life. With a robust grounding in the universal eternal truths our state of readiness will be our second nature and at that stage the new adage, "Bad habits are difficult to form but easy to break", will be only a natural extension of our genuine self.

5.     Taking out time to reflect on our lives to assess whether we are action oriented or not?

If we are action oriented, we just need to ensure that there is proper alignment with what is really important to us inlife. In case we lack action, we need to stop procrastinating and take action because delaying action is only going to get us further down the hill but the sky will retain its original position.

So take action now, only you can bring about that positive change in your life

God Bless

          Success N Synergy

We Are Only What Others Perceive Us to Be

 Align Actual Self with Self Image

We may have some self image of ourselves, this is the way we think about us, in reality this self image may or may not match with our actual self. Thus we must note that there are gaps between what we think we are and what we actually are, these gaps shall be referred as DISA(Distortions In Self Appraisal), if Self Image is represented by SI, and Actual Self by AS , then we have

DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal) = SI (Self Image) - AS (Actual Self)

DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal) happen because we love to see ourselves as what we aspire to be and not as what we actually are.

Stop correcting others & Start Working on Self Improvement

The real difference lies between those of us who are aware of these gaps and are constantly striving to uplift our AS (Actual Self) to match our SI (Self Image), and in the process raise the bar by setting up even higher standards of SI (Self Image), this is where real growth happens. On the other hand there is another set of people amongst us who can't recognize or don't want to accept DISA(Distortions In Self Appraisal),there by not only blocking our own growth & development , but also resulting into stagnation and deterioration of our AS (Actual Self).This is a very critical and alarming situation , because those of us in this  latter category get so self obsessed that we start working on the assumptions that if we are not getting the desired results then there is something wrong only with the others involved in the situation  and we need to work on correcting others and there is no improvement required in our AS (Actual Self). 

Let’s Test Our Growth Potential

Let's take a simple test, to know to which category we belong, by answering these three simple questions

1. Do we have an open mind to see the gaps between our SI (Self Image) & AS (Actual Self)? 
2. Do we feel that we have the humility to accept our own shortcomings and the courage to bring about a change (read improvement) in our AS (Actual Self)?
3. Do we have the tolerance to accept others with their mistakes, giving them space to learn from their mistakes and be a facilitator to their growth?

Managing OP (Others' Perception)

Let's understand whatever we do we are always viewed by others in the light of the perception formed in their minds regarding us. Thus the most vital part of all our social interactions is managing the perception of others around us. A word of caution, here we are not promoting deceiving, cheating or misrepresentation to achieve ulterior motives, on the contrary what we are saying is that we must keep trying with a genuine intent and an open heart, for others to appreciate our endeavor, thereby facilitating formation of a healthy perception regarding us in their minds.

The Ideal Scenario

In the end what matters is how others look at us, so the way we conduct ourselves is of supreme importance. The ideal scenario can be represented by

SI (Self Image) = AS (Actual Self) = OP (Others' Perception)

Major Challenges

The three major challenges facing us all the time include

1.     Having our healthy SI (Self Image)

2.     Working on our AS (Actual Self) to match our SI (Self Image) by bringing about the necessary improvements

3.     Mastering each & every aspect of our social interactions to orchestrate the desirable OP(Others' Perception) , closely matching with our SI (Self Image)

God Bless

    Success N Synergy

Don’t Ask, Just Give Proactively – For Building Lasting Success Through Emotional Intelligence

Behavior Stemming From Heavily Saturated Frustration Levels

We see right through our lives, as well as in our day to day experiences, that most of us exhibit extremely self centered behavior in specific circumstances. Such behavior seems to stem from heavily saturated frustration levels , and has become a generally predictable outcome of behavior involving two or more people in any contentious social interaction. 

Contentious Social Interactions Where Etiquette Is Sacrificed 

Be it traffic jam on the road, competition for parking, cozy office environment requiring information exchange between colleagues, siblings competing for limited family resources, neighbors fighting over small privileges, and the list of instances goes on where etiquette is sacrificed.

Self Reflection on the Level and Quality of "Life Skills Education" Is Required 

Just a little bit of self reflection can make us aware that our unkind behavior towards others cannot get justified under the cover of our own mistakes and incorrect living. Because the problem lies with our own choice of either not getting proper education, here by education we do not mean the formal school or college education but the life skills education, where we are taught to differentiate right from the wrong, ethical from the unethical, appropriate from the inappropriate, truth from the false, etc, .Teaching us about the two extremes, as well as the infinite number of choices falling in between. What we choose depends on the level and quality of our life skills education at that point in time, or our inability to apply the learning’s of the life skills education received due to our apathy or lack of correct understanding.

Treat others in a manner in which you would like them to treat you

The need of the hour is to get thoroughly absorbed in the realization that following the prescribed etiquettes is not only the necessity but a prerequisite on which any sustainable success can be founded. We all know that for every action there is equal and opposite reaction, if we can only apply this law in our own behavior we will soon realize we have a magic wand in our hands, meaning now we can program others to respond to us in a particular way. Let us say we want a smile from others, we need to offer a smile and a smile would come back to us. When we lose our cool and get angry on others we forget this law because of which we evoke the emotions of “getting angry” in the other person, it is as simple as that. So let us follow the wisdom before we can be happy , by keeping simple things simple and not complicating them by giving others what we do not want from them or to put it right "we must take care that we give others only what we would like to get from them".

Preserve Energy to Move towards Our Respective Goals with Faster Speed

It is very true that the prescribed etiquettes & manners are the end result of a very well thought out strategy to bring peace, harmony and civility in our society and success to the individuals following them. The degree of success directly proportional to the degree to which the etiquettes & manners are correctly followed Therefore it is very important to reflect on our day to day behavior and evaluate it against the acceptable prescribed standards of etiquettes & manners in each and every social interaction we encounter for harnessing the power of correct living to achieve happiness and bliss. This will open up new relaxation zone for us, where we would not only have support in our chosen endeavor from all the quarters but will also help preserve our energy to move towards our respective goals with faster speed. 

Resolve to act now 

Let's not wait for the others to evoke any type of response from us, but must take the initiative to proactively take control of our own behavior as well as leading by example for others to emulate, for achieving happiness and fulfillment in our lives.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Expectations From Others Is The Problem & Self Less Service To Others Is The Solution

When we expect something from others , we hand over our control in their hands .In our day to day lives we come across instances which expose us to the vulnerability of human behavior, there are discords , disagreements and hot exchanges, when the expectations are not met. This behavioral anomaly can be overcome leading towards a reduction in showdowns and unpleasant exchanges, provided we set higher standards of self regulation & governance, where we constantly evaluate our thoughts and actions by answering these three questions

1.     Am I expecting something from others?

2.     How can I reduce this dependence on others?

3.     How can I become more self reliant?

The answers to these questions can open doors towards newer possibilities and unexplored horizons.

Reviewing our expectations from others can throw light on our deficiencies and cravings, but all humans are born equal and the deficiencies are a result of only our perception and distorted thought processes. This distortion can be corrected by realizing that there is a mistake in the formation of our mental makeup and correcting that mistake, it is much like changing a computer program and the moment a computer program is changed it starts generating a new output.

As regards to cravings , this is a "must have" feeling and most of the time this is out of sync with our values, goals, purpose and universal eternal truths.Such cravings may appear to be very much within our reach and totally independent of others but such cravings set indirect expectations from others , which brings us back to the core issue of self governance & self regulation.

So, how do we get rid of this seemingly unending tirade of unpleasant & unwanted behavioral clashes? The answer lies in leading a correct life, drawing the much needed higher energy levels and power from the invaluable internal support.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Instead Of Reacting To Others , Changing Yourself Can Provide Great Long Term Rewards

In today’s fast paced life, what we see around us is a clutter of extreme behaviors emanating from the deeply embedded aspirations. It is very important to know our aspirations to check whether our own behavior is guided by the motives directed towards self aggrandizement.

Whether we are moving on the road, living in our respective families, studying in a school or university, working in a corporation or involved in any other activity, we are always chasing something. there are three levels at which we have to validate our worldly pursuits, whether our

1. Goals are in line with our Values
2. Values are in line with the Natural Principles
3. Behavior is in line with our Values , Goals & Natural Principles

Once this validation is completed objectively then we will be able to see where are we going off the track and what changes in our behavior are required to meet the high performance standards we are expecting from ourselves.

The most common forms of human reactions include hurt, anger, greed, lust, enmity, hatred, love, motivation, de-motivation, etc. The idea behind highlighting these behavior patterns is not to say that these are good or bad, but to drive home a point that most of the times, the way we think, feel & behave is not in line with our values, goals & natural principles. But our behavior is generally a reaction to something said or done to us by others.

The correct path is to refrain from analyzing the behavior of other individuals because if we start doing this we will be doing a thankless job and that too at the cost of our own aspirations.

Next time we need to check our own behavior to understand that whether our behavior is well thought of and in line with our chosen goals, values and natural principals or it is just a reaction to some one’s behavior who may not have any significant role in our scheme of things.

So we need to remain on track without, losing focus and without falling prey to the insignificant advances by the people around us.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Upgrade Your Behavior for Personal Growth & Prosperity

                        When interacting with others, most of us have this approach of taking others for granted. We generally are too obsessed with our own liking, disliking, goals, aspirations, plans, dreams and the list has no end. But this approach can only take us down the hill and pretty fast. It might seem that being self centered is in our long term interest but this is like viewing distorted reality. 

                      Anything that we feel is only for us , and under the influence of such thoughts if we go on antagonizing others around us, we are surely inviting trouble for ourselves. When that problem is going to surface?, this  is just a matter of time but it certainly would.

                           The social approach of being considerate & kind , as well as adhering to the correct manners & etiquettes while dealing with others is probably the best way to mark our existence and any other way will surely have invisible pit holes , the existence of such pit holes is realized only when we experience their impact.

                         If we feel that we are in possession of something which is right fully ours and there is someone who wants to take it from us, we need to examine the whole perspective of that individual as well as our own, before we decide the correct behavior on our part in that particular situation.

 So there are four factors to be considered

1. Our right to possess that particular object
2. The right of the other individual to get it
3. A tradeoff between the two ,to see if there is a practical way to maintain a judicious balance between the two extremes
4. Whether this approach will be appropriate or inappropriate behavior in the context of acceptable norms of correct etiquettes

Such an approach will not only help our personal growth, but would also make us acceptable to the people around us. This acceptability is a tacit certification of our demonstrated leadership abilities.

It is of utmost importance to grab good reading material on etiquette and keep practicing till it becomes our natural behavior; this is the only way to create great leaders & society

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Don't Let Frustration of Others Affect Your Happiness

It is very strange to note that a large majority of us, are so engrossed in our personal activities & routines that we tend to overlook an important fact. We might feel that we are independent but the fact is that we can't run away from the day to day reality of mutual human interdependence & coexistence.

It is worthwhile to note that the illusion of just trying to be the all in all of all our activities is futile, it can be a very hollowing experience adding to the grim and low in life, where as getting involved with the service oriented approach will not only help us in relieving our stress but will also lighten up our mood & relax our nervous, muscular-skeletal & cardiac systems for long term health gains. It also helps in setting up the right tone for others to emulate and pave the way for more humane approach and a life of consideration and properly imbibed etiquettes.

Just imagine how would we behave if we are in the company of our close friends, family members or other important persons in our life - yes we cannot afford to let go the protocol of etiquette .But what happens to us when there are total strangers around you, how can we become so casual in our approach in interacting with our fellow humans.

This approach of freaking out and overlooking the normal standards of personal conduct builds up unhealthy stress for all concerned and the impact is the highest for the one at the origin of this practice. The originator is under high stress and often frustrated, because we can get only what we are giving out. If we give happiness, respect, love & consideration then these would multiply and come back to us in the long run but the sad part is that the converse is also true.

It is the fact that the virtues that are getting forgotten have more actual value to them than what is often taught and understood by many.

So the moral of the story is to do unto others what you expect others to do to you. There can be no better way to start than to grab a good book on correct manners and etiquettes, to begin afresh and be the ambassador of love, respect and tolerance. This I am sure will just be a beginning towards transforming the way of life for future generations by setting up and propelling a contagious culture of human coexistence.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

And You Thought You Were In Control

When we are looking around us, we are amazed by the disproportionate allocation of resources done by nature. But the fact is each person is paying the price for gaining material prosperity. It may sound a bit harsh to the have-nots but the truth is the haves have paid adequate price for achieving their material wealth. It is like barter trade, you trade one possession to get another. Some- times people go after the mental peace and they lose their families, On the other hand there are some who go after their families and lose their mental peace.

       It seems to be a very sad state of affairs but with experience you will realize that it is designed in this particular fashion, with passage of time it becomes clear that the passion we carried for so long becomes the source of deep pain and you no longer draw enjoyment by doing those same activities which once had fueled you with energy. This is so because everything including us is in a continuous state of change, but there are certain things which never change. These unchanging elements are the unchanging wealth, and anyone who is in the possession of this wealth will get richer by the day, but this also comes at a price, the price may include false ego, material possessions, lust, greed & other worldly pursuits.

      It may sound as if we are preaching renunciation but this is not what we intend to do. We are only stressing on a point that it is important to note that anything we are craving for is only temporary and if we attach ourselves to it we have to go through the pain. The pain could be of separation or could be of a compromise to maintain the possession but this is a hard fact, so there is no perfect happiness that can be attributed to any form of material possession. Anything that gives us pleasure, gives us equal amount of pain and this realization alone can deliver us from the pain. This is what is known as Maya or illusion, this could be a simple situation where someone walking in scorching heat may be tempted to drink chilled water, but the act which was directed towards pleasure of quenching the thirst with the cold water now can result in ill health due to the abuse of the human body system. To counter the effect of these illusions we need emotional intelligence where, we although get attracted towards a glittering object but at the back of our mind we are also aware of the unhealthy consequences if we go ahead with that particular decision.

        Once this realization dawns on us then we can begin to differentiate between the things that we want to possess and are we really prepared to pay the required price in order to achieve the desired objects.    

Take out time for self introspection each day 

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Don't Despair, Happiness Can Again Replace This Pain

                                                                 When you were born,you were in your original & pure form, as you had started a new journey.During this journey you took certain actions which affected your personality.There were certain influences, which were positive but there were negative influences as well.

The positive influences were in line with the universal eternal truths and helped in creating & reinforcing your happy disposition, marked with optimism, creativity,hope,love, humility & gratitude, towards life.Where as negative influences though looked very attractive externally, but when imbibed led towards despondency, hatred, depression,anxiety,anger,rage,melancholy & anything but happiness.Thus you grew up as a mix of positive & negative influences,the ratio in which we experience happiness or otherwise depends on our predisposition created with this mix.If there is a dominance of positive influences in your life you will seem to be happy in a proportion higher than that of the state marked by the absence of happiness.

The way out, is by 

• Identifying & diluting/removing the impact of negative influences from your life and
• Identifying & building/ the reservoir of positive influences in your life

As a child you observed a lot of action happening around you , you picked certain role models and started identifying with them by emulating these models.The important aspects of negative influences are that

• They look very attractive when you observe them, 
• They provide great pleasure , when you experience them the first time 
• From second experience onward the pleasure drawn keeps on reducing
• Towards the continuum the pleasure becomes zero at a point 
• There after the same experience starts giving pain and 
• The pain keeps on increasing with each experience  

Until you realize that the experience which used to give pleasure has suddenly started giving pain,but the transition from pleasure to pain is not sudden, but we observed it only once we felt that the same experience is no longer providing the joy which you used to enjoy earlier but on the contrary there is a feeling of pain  and this pain is eating out the space to be occupied with happiness.The happiness can again replace this pain if we start building the reservoir of positive influences by living our lives based on the universal eternal truths.

Don't despair, it is possible to achieve happiness but this will call for an open mind, a disciplined approach towards self analysis and a meticulous execution at the level of personal self.

      

God bless

Success N Synergy
       

Achieving Happiness & Fulfillment In Your Life

                                     "For Every Action There Is An Equal and Opposite Reaction",this statement is known as Newton's Third Law of Motion.You may be wondering what this law has to do here, but we need to understand the application of this law to our day to day living to be able to take advantage of this truth.

                                                    Consider observing what is happening around us, did you notice that most of the people are continuously reacting to the one thing or the other,this causes a lot of energy wastage because either we do not have our own agenda or we lose track of that agenda when we start reacting impulsively to the situation, circumstances and people around us.In most cases we can see that the day begins with a reaction to the external stimulus and ends with another form of external stimulus.We can clearly see that we come into the line of somebody's action and then we react to that action,be it a telephone call, a remark ,a request or some thing else, our response is almost instant and generally a standard one for a particular stimulus.That is where we need to evaluate our response on the parameters critical to our energy channelization efficiency.This helps us in knowing whether such response is

• In line with our deeper values
• Going to genuinely benefit every one involved 
• Appropriate to be categorized as correct etiquette and manners 
• Acceptable to yourself from others in a similar situation 
• Directed towards achieving your goals
• Based on the universal eternal truths

                                                        If the answer to all these is in affirmative, then your response is correct and is directed towards bringing about happiness and fulfillment in your life, because when these parameters are taken care of, our 100% energy is dedicated towards the accomplishment of our goals.On the other hand when these are violated then we dissipate our energy in reacting to external stimulus.

Keep your response on track to experience inner joy, once this is internalized as a habit ,your progress towards the desired goal of achieving happiness & fulfillment in your life would happen at a much faster pace.

God Bless

Success N Synergy 

Power of Correct Living To Achieve Happiness and Bliss

                                              It is quite an ironical truth,that all us are generally hurt by some one known to us, because our expectations are not met or when our faith and trust is broken.In that situation we go through a great amount of unbearable pain.

                                                When you feel let down by your loved ones, always look at your self and the whole world in terms of  our purpose of existence.Every body here is supposed to lead life with integrity in line with the universal eternal truths, consciously or unconsciously.

                                                 We are into some situation or the other, but what ever thought comes to our mind ,we should carefully examine it and see if it is positive or negative,if it is a negative thought we must notice it and tell ourselves that this is a negative thought and we must not get into its grip.This very thought process will separate us from the negative thought and we will be able to view the functioning of our mind as a separate entity.It is like a mature person who knows if he needs to abstain from following the advise of another person, if he considers it not worth.

                                                 If we can train ourselves to do this then we start treating our own mind as an outsider always instructing us to feel in a particular way and it is up to us to properly analyse the mind , by weighing the pros and cons of the thoughts being highlighted with the use of our intellect and wisdom .This will help us in knowing if the mind is leading us in the right direction.and the moment we realize that the directive of the mind is not correct that is the time we automatically come out of the grip of the negativity being created by the mind.

                                                 It is like switching TV channels, when we do not like a particular channel we simply use the remote control to tune out that channel and tune in to a channel which we would like to watch.Similarly if our mind is popping up any thought or feeling which is making us feel miserable or unhappy , we can simply switch over to some thing which would make us feel happy,in this case the major difference is we do not have a physical remote control, therefore we need to learn this art by constantly uplifting ourselves. We can uplift ourselves by living life in accordance with the universal eternal truths.This can be done in four simple steps

Step One

Know the universal eternal truths

Step Two

Practice to live by these universal eternal truths

Step Three

Continuously monitor yourself to ensure that you internalize these universal eternal truths in the form of habits and practically start living in accordance with them. 

Step Four

Teach others to experience the power of correct living to achieve happiness and bliss

It is a known fact that when we teach others , we learn the best, therefore if you learn something good and you wish to retain and internalize it, the best way is to teach others, who would benefit by learning from you.But before you could start teaching,which is the fourth step you need to be through with the first three steps.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

Invaluable Internal Support

                                                            When you face challenges then there is a voice from with in that directs you to persist in the face of great difficulties.This is the strength which made many a great discoveries possible for mankind.When every thing goes against you this is the voice that acts as a torch to light up the path on which to advance.



                                                  This guiding voice is stronger if you are living on the correct eternal truths in your life, this is ideal when you are 10 on 10 and any score closer to 10 is an indication of a stronger voice and the converse is also true.So the people who persist through challenges and emerge victorious have a strong voice, indicating that they are on the right side.

Let's understand how this voice is developed?The voice is already there in all human beings, but is strengthened when the life conduct is in line with the universal eternal truths ,these include

• Following the right virtues like knowing your true self and your values,
• Having clarity regarding your talent & purpose in life,
• Having abundance mentality,
• Setting right examples by being a model,
• Treating others like you would like them to treat you,
• Subordinating your impulse and instinct to higher order choices, 
• Having courage to stand up for the right,
• Being action oriented to create the change by changing your self,
• Having control over your unconscious to connect with the universal intelligence,
• Being in control of your emotions to enjoy life and unleashing positive energy in, your own life and the life of those connected with you in any manner. 

If all of these characteristics are lived by you in your normal day to day life it would go a long way in lifting you as well as others around you.Please note there should be no pretending but actual internalized and naturally outgrown behavior, that would come through persistent hard-work, sincerity and dedication to achieve lasting peace, happiness & bliss.


God Bless

Success N Synergy