When we expect something from others , we hand over our control in their hands .In our day to day lives we come across instances which expose us to the vulnerability of human behavior, there are discords , disagreements and hot exchanges, when the expectations are not met. This behavioral anomaly can be overcome leading towards a reduction in showdowns and unpleasant exchanges, provided we set higher standards of self regulation & governance, where we constantly evaluate our thoughts and actions by answering these three questions
1. Am I expecting something from others?
2. How can I reduce this dependence on others?
3. How can I become more self reliant?
The answers to these questions can open doors towards newer possibilities and unexplored horizons.
Reviewing our expectations from others can throw light on our deficiencies and cravings, but all humans are born equal and the deficiencies are a result of only our perception and distorted thought processes. This distortion can be corrected by realizing that there is a mistake in the formation of our mental makeup and correcting that mistake, it is much like changing a computer program and the moment a computer program is changed it starts generating a new output.
As regards to cravings , this is a "must have" feeling and most of the time this is out of sync with our values, goals, purpose and universal eternal truths.Such cravings may appear to be very much within our reach and totally independent of others but such cravings set indirect expectations from others , which brings us back to the core issue of self governance & self regulation.
So, how do we get rid of this seemingly unending tirade of unpleasant & unwanted behavioral clashes? The answer lies in leading a correct life, drawing the much needed higher energy levels and power from the invaluable internal support.
God Bless
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