Skip to main content

Expectations From Others Is The Problem & Self Less Service To Others Is The Solution

Image
By
When we expect something from others , we hand over our control in their hands .In our day to day lives we come across instances which expose us to the vulnerability of human behavior, there are discords , disagreements and hot exchanges, when the expectations are not met. This behavioral anomaly can be overcome leading towards a reduction in showdowns and unpleasant exchanges, provided we set higher standards of self regulation & governance, where we constantly evaluate our thoughts and actions by answering these three questions


1.     Am I expecting something from others?
2.     How can I reduce this dependence on others?
3.     How can I become more self reliant?

The answers to these questions can open doors towards newer possibilities and unexplored horizons.

Reviewing our expectations from others can throw light on our deficiencies and cravings, but all humans are born equal and the deficiencies are a result of only our perception and distorted thought processes. This distortion can be corrected by realizing that there is a mistake in the formation of our mental makeup and correcting that mistake, it is much like changing a computer program and the moment a computer program is changed it starts generating a new output.

As regards to cravings , this is a "must have" feeling and most of the time this is out of sync with our values, goals, purpose and universal eternal truths.Such cravings may appear to be very much within our reach and totally independent of others but such cravings set indirect expectations from others , which brings us back to the core issue of self governance & self regulation.

So, how do we get rid of this seemingly unending tirade of unpleasant & unwanted behavioral clashes? The answer lies in leading a correct life, drawing the much needed higher energy levels and power from the invaluable internal support.

God Bless

Success N Synergy

    Comments

    Post a Comment

    Popular posts from this blog

    Building Focus On Aligning Personal and Societal Good

    By
      The Balancing Act Overall Wellbeing Of Society :-  Reflecting on the areas that need attention for building sharp focus on aligning personal and societal good. The factors that would rank high on this list would be empathy , responsibility and integrity . The
    Post a Comment
    Read more

    Upgrade Your Behavior for Personal Growth & Prosperity

    By
                            When interacting with others, most of us have this approach of taking others for granted. We generally are too obsessed with our own liking, disliking, goals, aspirations, plans, dreams and the list has no end. But this approach can only take us down the hill and pretty fast. It might seem that being self centered is in our long term interest but this is like viewing distorted reality.                        Anything that we feel is only for us , and under the influence of such thoughts if we go on antagonizing others around us, we are surely inviting trouble for ourselves. When that problem is going to surface?, this  is just a matter of time but it certainly would.                            The social approach of being considerate & kind , as well as adhering to th...
    Post a Comment
    Read more

    Don't Despair, Happiness Can Again Replace This Pain

    By
                                                                     When you were born,you were in your original & pure form , as you had started a new journey.During this journey you took certain actions which affected your personality.There were certain influences, which were positive but there were negative influences as well. The positive influences were in line with the universal eternal truths and helped in creating & reinforcing your happy disposition , marked with optimism, creativity,hope,love, humility & gratitude , towards life.Where as negative influences though looked very attractive externally, but when imbibed led towards despondency, hatred, depression,anxiety,anger,rage,melancholy & anything but happiness.Thus you grew up as a mix of positive & negative influences,the ratio in which we exp...
    Post a Comment
    Read more