Successful People Use Emotional Intelligence to their Advantage

It Is Essential To Also Know That Ignorance Is Not Bliss

Acquire Knowledge Regarding Emotional Intelligence

It is important for you to know that you are responsible for what  you do. Most of the time many people act without this self realization, which dawns on them only when they are actually facing the consequences of their actions. Therefore it is essential to also know that


 ignorance is not bliss but it can lead you into unexpected zones, which may not be very pleasant. Approach knowledge centers and professionals with knowledge , read relevant books to acquire the knowledge you need but do not cut a sorry figure in the end saying that you did not know about the theory of action and consequences.

 Three Stages of Action

Think about the possible consequences of your action before embarking

You do not even know who all are affected by your actions and how these actions come back to you in the form of consequences of these actions. So the golden rule is to seek wisdom from any authentic source and use your own judgment to think about the possible consequences of the action that you want to take. There are three stages in which action is taken by you, the first stage is when you direct your thought towards the objective you wish to accomplish and then look at the alternative courses of actions which can help you in achieving that particular objective, the second stage is when you evaluate all these possible options on the basis of the most likely outcome each one of them is going to produce once implemented, and the third stage is to implement the chosen option on the basis of the most likely outcome that would be achieved.

Emotional Intelligence Can Be Developed

The irony is that most people , most of the time jump to the third stage without considering the first two       stages, and they implement the action of the third stage still going just the action way without thinking about

Learn the right way to take the right action

the consequences of that action, the most likely outcome of that action. The point to be noted here is not that the people jumping to the third stage do not actually jump to the third stage but they lack awareness of the existence of the first two stages. Thus , what is important here is that these people need to get educated about making the correct and proper use of choosing the right action. And the people who have only action orientation without any regard to the consequences, completely lack knowledge about this decision process when taking action. These people are lacking in emotional intelligence, which can be developed through gaining self awareness and  by getting trained to the right way to go about taking action, with a clear focus on the consequences

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Successful People Use Emotional Intelligence to Their Advantage

If you happen to analyze a few successful people as well as a few not so successful people, you would find that the successful people are using their emotional intelligence to their advantage , whereas the not so

successful people have not been able to take advantage of this natural endowment,called emotional intelligence, lying dominant inside them. The irony continues beyond this point in the form of people failing to ascertain the consequences of their actions and taking such actions involving breach of the law or causing irreversible damage to their lives and careers by getting involved in actions with far reaching consequences sometimes leading them to severe legal penalties and imprisonment. All this happens because they lack,emotional intelligence,the awareness of the consequences of their actions.

Take The Right Action Towards Leading a Happy And Fulfilling Life

The difference lies in exposing a very large number of people to the awareness and training for developing their emotional intelligence because this can act as the one timely stitch which can save nine. At times , it can prevent most of the unwanted situations from the lives of most of the people. The challenge is to rate yourself on the development and application of emotional intelligence , this exercise may prompt you to take the right action towards leading  a happy and fulfilling life by developing your emotional intelligence.

God Bless

Success N Synergy  

  

Achieving Personal Effectiveness through Emotional Intelligence

Choose & Act on the Most Appropriate Thoughts

Achieving effectiveness is governed by very simple thought processes. It is like choosing and acting on the most appropriate thoughts. At times you need to consciously generate these thoughts till they become


a very natural habit to you. For instance if you wish to be a good public speaker , you must learn the principles governing the discipline of public speaking, once you know these principles , you must practice them regularly, so that these principles are relegated to your memory. Now as and when an opportunity of public speaking presents itself, you must hold it and show case your talent.

The Power of Directing Thought towards Goals

The fact could be that you are scared of public speaking, but the moment you take off your mind from the thought of fearing this activity and place it on the track of learning about public speaking and practicing it. You open a world of opportunities in public speaking, this is the power of directing your thought towards anything you want to achieve.

Effectiveness is a Function of Thought at Will & Discipline

The same phenomenon is true for achieving effectiveness by focusing your thought on time management, physical fitness level, body language, communication skills, emotional intelligence, etc. therefore achieving effectiveness in any area of your life is a function of you being able to focus your mind at will on the chosen activity and the discipline to carry out the activity in line with the prescribed knowledgetenets.

Balancing Act between the Heart & the Mind

When it comes to the ability to generate thoughts at will, we are essentially dealing with the faculty of emotional intelligence. This aspect of your personality performs a balancing act between the heart & the mind, or the feelings & the logic. So having the control regarding your decision, to give precedence to feelings over logic or the other way round , would determine your success and failure achieved in life.

Emotional Intelligence - The Recipe for Success

Thus knowing that although you may be very thirsty but with the limited amount of water available to be shared with a large number of people, may make you control your desire to completely quench your thirst by taking only limited quantity of water to ensure that others present there must also get their limited share. This control over the physiological demand of the body for immediate gratification by deferring the satisfaction to a later time because of some overriding consideration for others and the etiquette you need to follow in a particular situation can be categorized as a behavior emanating from emotional intelligence. Thus setting your thoughts on the right track and backing them up with the right action is the recipe for success.

Channelize Your Energy for Achieving Better & Bigger Results

Sometimes we indulge into thought processes & related action, impacting us in the short, medium or long run, but so far as these are guided by our internal voice, they would always bring us direct fruits of our actions. This is similar to keeping on the right track, always, irrespective of what is happening around us or what is being done to us by others. Such mastery would evolve your inner strength and you would be able to channelize your energy for achieving better and bigger results in your chosen vocation.

The Rare Combination of Success, Happiness & Fulfillment

Thus, achieving effectiveness in a nut shell is a result of achieving the capability of controlling thought at will, knowing the right sources of knowledge, learning from them, practicing the art of self discipline, These work well to get you the rare combination of success, happiness & fulfillment, when you live the universal eternal truths and the divine virtuesalong with developing your internal voice as well as the, art of balancing logic and feelings called, emotional intelligence.

    God Bless

Success N Synergy

Success Mantra – Develop Emotional Intelligence by Channelizing Your Positive Energy

Strengthen Your Internal Voice

When you notice that your own hand is betraying your trust, you must know that most probably you have landed into the state of total or partial paralysis. By your hand what we mean here is someone, whom you

trust like your own-self and if this person betrays you, in such a situation 

you are left with just two options. The first, and the undesirable, one is get into an open confrontation with this person and the second option is to realize the futility of such worldly relationships, as the one you had with the person who betrayed your trust. You can exercise this second option of handling the set back by conserving your energy, and consolidating your internal voice. You must also treat this as a signal from the supernatural, of the fact that such dependencies, for drawing any emotional support, on any person or material object can never be a relief in the wake of the challenges facing you. The only source of real & lasting happiness can be found in living the eternal truths, as these are never changing and their validity pervades the realms of time and space.

Any Stranger Could Have Not Been Chosen by the Super Natural to Inflict This Misery on You

It is worthwhile to note here that the pain of betrayal can be inflicted on you only by people whom you trust, so there is no point in blaming and cursing them because any stranger could have not been used by the super natural to plan the infliction of this misery on you, more over the pain experienced by you is only the result of your own past actions or karma, but one thing is for sure that the person who betrayed you, did so under the illusion created by ignorance or passion , and has definitely neither understood life nor the role played by personal leadership, emotional intelligence and the invaluable internal support in achieving long lasting happiness & fulfillment. This person is no different than others and has acted with the objective of achieving happiness, but did not know the working of Maya or illusion, thereby getting trapped into its clutches. So such a person needs a lot of sympathy and best wishes to break free from the strong hold of Maya or illusion, and needs your support to overcome this handicap. Such an approach of helping this person, although, shall go a long way in developing your leadership potential and emotional intelligence reservoir, very much needed to achieve lasting peace and happiness in your life.

Intent of the Supernatural Is To Make You Emotionally Stronger

Once this realization dawns on you, utmost care must be taken to ensure that you stop depending upon such people, because so long as you continue to depend upon them, you are most likely to re-experience the similar paralytic condition in your life, with the only exception of depending on the super natural to be a non deplete-able reservoir of emotional support and wisdom. In case of any such eventuality, when you are pushed into a situation of immense unbearable pain, apart from the stated learning, the intent of the supernatural is to make you emotionally stronger because the super natural wants you to become strong enough for handling the difficult stuff specifically meant to be handled by you.

Either You Break Under Pressure or You Develop Your Emotional Intelligence

At any given time you should be thankful to such people who play a major role in the design of the supernatural by having an inappropriate behavior towards you. This inappropriate behavior can range from cheating you, breaking your trust, lying to you, being rude to you, thinking and wishing bad for you, feeling jealous of you, etc. When a person displays such negative emotions against you, you have a cause to celebrate that you have arrived and these people are laying a testing ground as an examination to qualify or disqualify you against these odds. The result of this test is measured by a simple yardstick - weather you break under these pressures by retaliating against these provocations or you develop your emotional intelligence by applying restraint, for maintaining a cool head under all kinds of circumstances and not forgetting your etiquette of consideration and respect towards others as also living the core philosophy underlined by the universal eternal truths and the divine or the right virtues

Build Proactive Emotional Muscle to Achieve the Success You Truly Deserve

You must also understand that the supernatural power needs people with high emotional maturity to take on very critical tasks, having no margin for error of any type, which require a very strong person to handle it. Therefore the degree of your emotional maturity is tested by giving you the situations with varying intensities of emotional turbulence, the idea is to see whether you get qualified or disqualified for bigger and more stringent examinations, hence there is a difference between the levels of success achieved by you as described by your capacity to withstand pressures and emotionally testing times without succumbing to them, on the contrary if you break out of the discipline prescribed by the universal eternal truths and the divine virtues, you stagnate at that particular level of incompetence till you are able to build your proactive emotional muscle to qualify for the success truly deserved by you. Therefore if you develop the capability to channelize all your negative experiences as a positive input to fuel your growth, then you would have mastered yourself and would be the most eligible & deserving person for achieving success, happiness & fulfillment in your life.

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Freedom, from Jealousy & from Craving for Pride - A Divine Virtue

Freedom is an innate virtue, your state of fulfillment or otherwise depends upon whether this natural endowment is used or misused by you respectively. You can progress in the direction of

a fulfilling life only when you have the freedom from jealousy as well as the freedom from the craving for pride.

All Struggle in this World is the Result of the Craving for Pride;

Most of us generally believe that we are the real owners of our various material possessions in this world and take great pride in thinking that we are the factual owners of these material possessions, where as the fact is that these material possessions are in the ownership of God. All the struggle of most people in this world is the result of the craving for the false pride of staking the claim for the material possessions around them.

Jealousy if Allowed to Dominate Eats into the Feeling of Fulfillment;

When a hot object is placed near ice, the ice starts losing its form and it finally gets converted into  liquid, similarly Jealousy is a negative feeling which if allowed to dominate our being, it gradually grows stronger thus eating into the positive feeling of fulfillment and ultimately eradicating fulfillment completely from our lives. example, – when you get to know that another person has obtained the possession of some material object, which you also wish to have in your possession, then there are three different ways in which you can react to this event, the first and the most common way is to feel jealous of the other person, the second way could be, to be indifferent to such an event and the third way could be, to be feeling genuinely happy for the person that now possesses an object that would make him or her happy, this kind of disposition is the mark of an abundance mentality, which states that there is enough for everyone deserving and there is no shortage of any type, meaning it is not a zero sum game , where the gain of one person is necessarily the loss of another person.

To be able to experience fulfillment, the third way, marked with abundance mentality, when followed naturally by you, will be an indication that you are progressing on the right path to fulfillment. The fact of life is that each living being has to die some day or the other and we are no exceptions. Whatever deeds, divine or evil, a person does to acquire the possession of the material objects, has to face the consequences as a result of these deeds. After death there is no way the possession of these material objects can be retained by that particular person. Therefore there is no point in feeling jealous or craving for the false pride of possessing these material objects.

 

This Craving for False Pride is fueled by Passion and Ignorance;

Your reaction to any situation is governed by the dominating mode of your being, which may be exhibited by your acting under the spell of either ignorance, passion or goodness.

Ignorance; Under the spell of ignorance you tend to neglect the universal eternal truths and their impact, you are just motivated by the present ,you are so deeply entrenched in the clutches of the present moment that all your thinking capabilities are short circuited to support the act you wish to pursue in the present moment. You tend to get swayed by the emotions prevailing at that point in time, there by blocking out your access to the complete reasoning and thinking process, which could have guided you in terms of the effect of the action that will be produced as consequences of your action, such a situation can be averted by developing emotional intelligence.

Passion; When over powered by your passion you deliberately focus on acquiring objects you passionately wish to own and are willing to forego all other things , by acting in such a way you knowingly compromise on the universal eternal truths and expose yourself to the long term sufferings to be produced as a result of your actions. The difference that action taken under passion has with that taken under ignorance is that while under passion you tend to ignore the universal eternal truths through your reasoning whereas under ignorance you lose your discerning capability and all your reasoning, logic and thinking powers are completely blocked. So your actions under the spell of passion are still a matter of choice whereas those under the spell of ignorance are totally disconnected from your thinking reality in terms of the consequences arising out of your actions. 

 Acting in Goodness Gives Freedom from Jealousy as well as Craving for False Pride; 

Goodness; While in goodness you are equally concerned about the people around you and your behavior at all times is guided by the intent of not offending others through your actions, thus you see that the complete norms of etiquette flowing from this thought in different cultures and civilizations, where others, their respect and comfort are placed before the objective of self aggrandizement

Freedom if misused can take you away from the things you want to achieve, by leading you into the wrong direction, whereas its correct use can propel you to great heights and you can program yourself to achieve the things you desire in life

Knowing that you are, were or will only be a caretaker of the material possessions in your control, and the only owner is God, your craving for the false pride of owning the material objects will sublimate paving way to the attitude of leading a righteous life by following the universal eternal natural truths and imbibing the divine virtues in your life.

God Bless

Success N Synergy