Sanjay V Sharma

Two Realities We have two realities in our life ; one is what others think about us? And the other is what we actually are? We need to make constant endeavor to connect to our real self - our inner core . This is a place where there is no hidden agenda, darkness, pretention, greed, selfishness, ambiguity and illusion. There is only light, tranquility, truth, peace, relaxation, gratitude and clarity.   We are, witnessing the worst mad rat race of our times, running after material possessions and in the process we are knowingly and unknowingly losing out on 1.      Peace of Mind ; Because of the perpetual anxiety to achieve our material goals, we are in a constant state of tension, a mental state marked by the absence of lightness and relaxation, causing us to feel irritated even at the slightest provocation. Need any evidence, just watch the traffic on the road and see how people express their growing frustration in the form of road rage culminating in heated e...

The Perpetual Complaint; Every now and then we come across people, who complain about not being able to achieve their goals. And if we are able to achieve our goal then very often it is at a very big cost to us , which we realize only once a lot of water has flown under the bridge.  Sometimes we ourselves have the same complaint. But the people, including us, who have this perpetual complaint, must understand the complete truth behind the mechanism of goal setting and goal achievement. Two Interrelated Concepts Regarding Goals ; while setting our goals we need to understand that a goal is something worthwhile we want to achieve and to achieve a goal we must engage in action that would make us achieve it.  We can see clearly that there are two interrelated concepts , the first concept relates to taking   a decision regarding something worthwhile, called a goal, which we want to achieve and the second concept relates to the action we take for achieving that goal...

A New Paradigm There is a saying that,"Bad habits are easy to form but difficult to break.” Whether this is true or not, depends upon what do we like to choose . We need to rewrite this old adage with a new paradigm , to be read as,"Bad habits are difficult to form but easy to break".   Factors Leading to this Paradigm Shift 1.      Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come; Let's look at the factors which make this paradigm shift possible, but before doing this, it is only natural to make a note of the turn of events in the last century. We crawled from agriculture age to information age. It does not mean that technology & information exchange could have not thrived in the times of agriculture age, the same technology that works today could have generated the same results at that time as well, but can anybody tell why all this hi-tech revolution did not happen at the time when agriculture was supposed to be the main activity for any countr...

  Align Actual Self with Self Image We may have some self image of ourselves, this is the way we think about us, in reality this self image may or may not match with our actual self. Thus we must note that there are gaps between what we think we are and what we actually are, these gaps shall be referred as  DISA(Distortions In Self Appraisal), if Self Image is represented by SI, and Actual Self by AS , then we have DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal) = SI (Self Image) - AS (Actual Self) DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal)  happen because we love to see ourselves as what we aspire to be and not as what we actually are. Stop correcting others & Start Working on Self Improvement The real difference lies between those of us who are aware of these gaps and are constantly striving to uplift our  AS (Actual Self)  to match our  SI (Self Image) , and in the process raise the bar by setting up even higher standards of  S...

Behavior Stemming From Heavily Saturated Frustration Levels We see right through our lives, as well as in our day to day experiences, that most of us exhibit extremely self centered behavior in specific circumstances. Such behavior seems to stem from  heavily saturated frustration levels  , and has become a generally predictable outcome of behavior involving two or more people in any contentious social interaction.  Contentious Social Interactions Where Etiquette Is Sacrificed   Be it traffic jam on the road, competition for parking, cozy office environment requiring information exchange between colleagues, siblings competing for limited family resources, neighbors fighting over small privileges, and the list of instances goes on where etiquette is sacrificed. Self Reflection on the Level and Quality of "Life Skills Education" Is Required   Just a little bit of self reflection can make us aware  that our unkind behavior towards others cannot get justified ...

When we expect something from others , we hand over our control in their hands .In our day to day lives we come across instances which expose us to the vulnerability of human behavior, there are discords , disagreements and hot exchanges, when the expectations are not met. This behavioral anomaly can be overcome leading towards a reduction in showdowns and unpleasant exchanges, provided we set higher standards of self regulation & governance , where we constantly evaluate our thoughts and actions by answering these three questions 1.      Am I expecting something from others? 2.      How can I reduce this dependence on others? 3.      How can I become more self reliant? The answers to these questions can open doors towards newer possibilities and unexplored horizons. Reviewing our expectations from others can throw light on our deficiencies and cravings, but all humans are born equal and the deficiencies are a result of on...

In today’s fast paced life, what we see around us is a clutter of extreme behaviors emanating from the deeply embedded aspirations. It is very important to know our aspirations to check whether our own behavior is guided by the motives directed towards self aggrandizement. Whether we are moving on the road, living in our respective families, studying in a school or university, working in a corporation or involved in any other activity, we are always chasing something. there are three levels at which we have to validate our worldly pursuits, whether our Goals are in line with our Values Values are in line with the Natural Principles Behavior is in line with our Values , Goals & Natural Principles Once this validation is completed objectively then we will be able to see where are we going off the track and what changes in our behavior are required to meet the high performance standards we are expecting from ourselves. The most common forms of human reactions include hurt, anger,...