Sanjay V Sharma

It Calls For Difficult Self Evaluation Every day brings a new learning and the life goes on.How do we utilize our life long learning in a single moment while deciding about the simplest as well as the most complex things in our life.This is possible if we remain focused on the ultimate motive of our being.This is easier said than done because it calls for the difficult self evaluation to assess or own needs and to see if they fit into the bigger picture that life has to offer.Most of the time the struggle is intensified because we forget that we live collectively but we die alone. So What's The Solution?           Considering that the life has a lot of fanfare and action, many a battles are fought within our minds as we struggle to find happiness but get disilusioned and confused by what is actually experienced by us.Sometimes we may be in a state of shock with what is actually happening as compared to what we had initially planned to do.The more we try to find...

Destiny Is Shaped by Our Decisions and Actions  Every now and then, life takes us through a turbulent journey. Sometimes we feel totally helpless, looking for supportive hands around us while at other times we seem to be having a lot of power and others around us seem to have much less power, leading to the role reversal.  Despite our best intentions we do not succeed at keeping our behavior consistent with our values , we tend to get swayed by the situation and fail to keep our commitments, to ourselves, because we are unclear about our destiny, whatever comes in our way we pick it up thinking itto be the right opportunity for us totally unaware of the fact that we are masters of our destiny because it is consistently shaped by the decisions and actions we take. The Struggle to Be OurReal Self So what is the guiding light for us to keep us on the right track? What are the critical parameters to decide the right path for us in any given situation? The answer is simple but i...

Two Realities We have two realities in our life ; one is what others think about us? And the other is what we actually are? We need to make constant endeavor to connect to our real self - our inner core . This is a place where there is no hidden agenda, darkness, pretention, greed, selfishness, ambiguity and illusion. There is only light, tranquility, truth, peace, relaxation, gratitude and clarity.   We are, witnessing the worst mad rat race of our times, running after material possessions and in the process we are knowingly and unknowingly losing out on 1.      Peace of Mind ; Because of the perpetual anxiety to achieve our material goals, we are in a constant state of tension, a mental state marked by the absence of lightness and relaxation, causing us to feel irritated even at the slightest provocation. Need any evidence, just watch the traffic on the road and see how people express their growing frustration in the form of road rage culminating in heated e...

The Perpetual Complaint; Every now and then we come across people, who complain about not being able to achieve their goals. And if we are able to achieve our goal then very often it is at a very big cost to us , which we realize only once a lot of water has flown under the bridge.  Sometimes we ourselves have the same complaint. But the people, including us, who have this perpetual complaint, must understand the complete truth behind the mechanism of goal setting and goal achievement. Two Interrelated Concepts Regarding Goals ; while setting our goals we need to understand that a goal is something worthwhile we want to achieve and to achieve a goal we must engage in action that would make us achieve it.  We can see clearly that there are two interrelated concepts , the first concept relates to taking   a decision regarding something worthwhile, called a goal, which we want to achieve and the second concept relates to the action we take for achieving that goal...

A New Paradigm There is a saying that,"Bad habits are easy to form but difficult to break.” Whether this is true or not, depends upon what do we like to choose . We need to rewrite this old adage with a new paradigm , to be read as,"Bad habits are difficult to form but easy to break".   Factors Leading to this Paradigm Shift 1.      Nothing is more powerful than an idea whose time has come; Let's look at the factors which make this paradigm shift possible, but before doing this, it is only natural to make a note of the turn of events in the last century. We crawled from agriculture age to information age. It does not mean that technology & information exchange could have not thrived in the times of agriculture age, the same technology that works today could have generated the same results at that time as well, but can anybody tell why all this hi-tech revolution did not happen at the time when agriculture was supposed to be the main activity for any countr...

  Align Actual Self with Self Image We may have some self image of ourselves, this is the way we think about us, in reality this self image may or may not match with our actual self. Thus we must note that there are gaps between what we think we are and what we actually are, these gaps shall be referred as  DISA(Distortions In Self Appraisal), if Self Image is represented by SI, and Actual Self by AS , then we have DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal) = SI (Self Image) - AS (Actual Self) DISA (Distortions in Self Appraisal)  happen because we love to see ourselves as what we aspire to be and not as what we actually are. Stop correcting others & Start Working on Self Improvement The real difference lies between those of us who are aware of these gaps and are constantly striving to uplift our  AS (Actual Self)  to match our  SI (Self Image) , and in the process raise the bar by setting up even higher standards of  S...

Behavior Stemming From Heavily Saturated Frustration Levels We see right through our lives, as well as in our day to day experiences, that most of us exhibit extremely self centered behavior in specific circumstances. Such behavior seems to stem from  heavily saturated frustration levels  , and has become a generally predictable outcome of behavior involving two or more people in any contentious social interaction.  Contentious Social Interactions Where Etiquette Is Sacrificed   Be it traffic jam on the road, competition for parking, cozy office environment requiring information exchange between colleagues, siblings competing for limited family resources, neighbors fighting over small privileges, and the list of instances goes on where etiquette is sacrificed. Self Reflection on the Level and Quality of "Life Skills Education" Is Required   Just a little bit of self reflection can make us aware  that our unkind behavior towards others cannot get justified ...